exoticfingerprints: Will you reply to me in private? Though, I rarely ever ask for advice. I'm in need of it at this time. How do you take criticism especially, from family. I understand, that they may have the best interest at heart. But, their judgments don't necessarily define who you are. They define who they are. But they won't exactly come to those terms either. Ha God, its like i breathe fire. I can't stand being ordered around or viewed as an inferior. How can you condense pain into something positive?